Following is an excerpt from an Audio Class on Bhagavad Gita Chapter 3 – Verse 10-16.
2nd section of the third chapter
In this section
Krishna answers on how to satisfy the material desires in a religious way.
So we have to perform sacrifice and that is done by doing ‘Yagya’ and when you perform this you will get what you desire for. This is the way where those who are attached will also get purified so basically Krishna is allowing us to fulfil our desires. Generally, what happens to those who practice spirituality is that they will make you feel very guilty for having desires and some people go to more extreme level by making you feel shameless but some tell you to enjoy your desires. Modern psychology says guilty is bad so be shameless and in Vedic culture those who have wrong knowledge they will make you feel miserable for having desires. so that two extents you should be careful of 1. guilt 2. justification so both extends are bad but Krishna balances us by giving us the principles of Shraddha means faith in the higher powers, faith in Demi Gods. So be sober and know your limitations and be humble. The point is that we can enjoy a little bit of pleasure of the world but in sober form and by performing sacrifice.
As we cannot give up desires and it is not easy for example a famous philosopher said ‘smoking is very dangerous and I’ve given up smoking many times’ so it’s not easy to give up your desire, you will struggle for sure. but Krishna says there is hope, perform sacrifice and be sober, don’t justify. Performing practical sacrifice in Kalyuga is by chanting ‘Hare Krishna’ and giving Prasad, these are the two forms of most practical sacrificing in modern age so you will get purified and those desires will also get purified.
Sacrifice is a way of telling God that we are dependent on him and need his blessings to fulfill our desires, then Krishna says that those who have this mode and therefore they are humble and they perform sacrifice then they will progress but if you enjoy without sacrificing then you are a thief. Krishna says don’t be a thief if you enjoying this material world, if you getting benefits from this world then you should also perform sacrifice, don’t just keep taking. So in short Krishna says not to live in a free culture and learn to pay to the nature.
Krishna says those who do not perform sacrifice are living a life of sin and that it’s a life waste like one will only think about himself and not others, being selfish and thinking how he will be happy and not thinking how others will be happy. But Krishna is so nice that he is making accommodation for those who have material desires so if you want to enjoy then perform ‘Yagya’ and enjoy. So whether you have no desires or lots of desires, you should approach Krishna then your desires will get purified if you sincerely practice devotional service.
The Principle of sacrifice is how much one is willing to take that step of service and sacrifice. So the golden rule to follow this path of service and sacrifice in a relationship is to put yourself in others shoe rather than putting them in your own shoe. You have to understand what the person is going through and it is the basic golden rule to improve all the relationship adding to it Krishna says you should be in other person’s shoe by not treating for what they are but by treating them for what they can potentially be or what they can possibility be and that requires the spirit of sacrifice. And based on that you want people to treat you in these five ways. Also we have to treat others in these five ways.
1. You want people to encourage you.
2. You want people to appreciate you.
3. You want people to forgive you.
4. You want people to listen to you.
5. You want people to understand you.
Only then there will some sanity or else you will be blaming each other and make life more miserable.