“Beware of the man who does not return your blow: he neither forgives you nor allows you to forgive yourself.”
– George Bernard Shaw (a famous Irish playwright of the twentieth century and a Nobel Laureate)
“I hate myself,” said Ramesh, to which I replied, “I love myself.”
My response was rhetorical; I wanted to make a point: don’t condemn yourself so much that you no longer need enemies. Are you now your greatest enemy?
“But isn’t guilt, confession, and shame important elements of our prayer?” asked Ramesh. “We get closer to God by this, right?”
I said, “Yes, but that’s if you speak the language of self-criticism in such a way that at the end of your scornful diatribe, you have transformed. But if you dislike yourself more, stop right there! – don’t spew hatred no more.”
When guilt of a past event haunts you, it’s time you practice self-forgiveness. Learn to be kind to your own self- you need it badly!
God loves each one of us despite all our faults, and although I make mistakes, I am not a mistake! God has prepared me for a reason. I am after all a spiritual spark- full of eternity, knowledge and bliss. Due to the complicated twists and turns, that life takes, we slip and fall. But we need to rise again. Let’s redeem ourselves and become worthy of God’s love. And that begins with self-acceptance.
Making Prayer sessions more meaningful
In the tenth chapter of Bhagavad Gita, God (known as Lord Krishna to Bhakti Yoga practitioners) says that qualities like intelligence, truthfulness, and forgiveness, besides many others, are created by Him. Later in the sixteenth chapter, Krishna delineates the difference between divine people and those with a demoniac nature. He emphatically declares right at the outset that forgiveness is a quality of the divine (16.1-3). Therefore when we enter the space of forgiveness, we connect to Krishna. Those who hate themselves, however, can’t forgive others as well.
To be continued…