If we live in fear and hate, if that’s the foundational existence of our minds, then even minor issues trigger more fear and insecurity. Then comes the worst part: when you realize your mind’s fearful, you become more afraid that you are fearful. It’s a vicious negative spiral that feeds on itself.
Be kind to yourself
The way out is simple, yet unconventional to the external world of problem solving.
The practical application of the principle of acceptance is: be gentle and kind to yourself.
‘Yes, I am fearful right now. It’s ok. I accept this fear; my mind is now insecure.’ The moment you say this slowly and gently to yourself – especially the part that it’s your mind and not you that’s fearful – you have subconsciously separated yourself from your mind’s fears. This is the principle of acceptance in action. Soon the mind could blow up some other issue. Again, practise awareness, and then accept it as your mind’s situation and slowly get the flight of your life back on track.
While Awareness is our first and foremost self-empowering tool, it is Acceptance that keeps us humble and small. In the jungle, a doe is alert and small and wouldn’t dare pretend to be a lion. If the deer does pep himself as the king of the jungle, he’s simply courting disaster. Don’t fight the lion like mind. Be aware of your puny existence in this cosmos and more importantly, accept it and move on.
Unfortunately from childhood we are trained to be what we are not. The adverts goad us on to think and live big, which in effect means stay disconnected from your natural, small, yet beautiful self.
Small is beautiful
The challenge of living what we are not, is real. Sadly no one seems to mind. We think and dream big; ‘big is better’ seems to be the mantra.
British-German economist E.F.Schumacher challenged this thinking way back in the early 1970’s with his classic wisdom book Small is Beautiful. The principles he shares are relevant even forty five years later.
To be continued…