Affirmation is therefore, a critical first of the three steps to develop Acceptance.
An example of an affirmation:
‘I approve of myself, and I accept myself just the way I am. I love myself, and I forgive myself.’
For those raised in a culture that teaches guilt and fear, this could be bizarre. But for one who seeks freedom from the vicious clutches of the mind, this is the golden key to happiness.
Read the affirmation stated above again. Could you see how Oza needed this badly? Instead of seeking encouragement and approval from the world that’s busy with its own oceanic problems, this man thought of encouraging himself. He reasoned that God helps those who help themselves and so he began to invest his feelings into these statements.
The energy we unleash into these consciously chosen thoughts creates a new reality for us; a truth that incubates in hope and aspiration. The renowned American philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson, in his Essays: First Series (1841) said it crisply: ‘The ancestor of every action is a thought.’ The point Emerson made was there is a time for both actions and thought, and there’s no need to look busy just for the sake of it. One could pause, and connect to one’s own self first. In an essay titled, ‘Spiritual Laws,’ Emerson declares that one could be rich in mind, just by the right kind of thoughts.
The right thoughts or Affirmations need ‘energy’ to yield results, just as your body needs ‘food’ to function. The ‘energy’ comes from visualization.
Step 2: Visualization
‘Create a vision of who you want to be and then live into that picture as if it were already true.’
– Arnold Schwarzenegger – actor, bodybuilder and politician
He was a victim of child abuse – his father pulled his hair, hit him with belts, refused to understand him and even accused him of not being his biological child. So intense was the treatment that later when his father died, this young man refused to attend the funeral. Despite the negativity unleashed on him, he went on to become the biggest icon in the world of bodybuilding, having won the Mr. Olympia contest seven times. Considered widely as the greatest bodybuilders of all time, Schwarzenegger says he refused to be broken; each time he faced failures in life, he vowed to rise and be somebody extraordinary.To be continued…